It is inevitable that, with fibromyalgia, there will be flares. For no conceivable reason, the pain will increase, and the fatigue will overwhelm. During my last flare, it seemed an especially deep plunge into pain. And for the first time I noticed, a nagging little voice that wanted to know what I had done wrong. It asked, " Did you eat the wrong thing? Did you stay up too late? Did you do too much? Are you being negative?" Wasn't it enough that I felt crummy ( technical term) ? Did I have to heap condemnation on my head too? Hmmmm. Every time I fall from grace, and it has to be grace from God to feel well, it is deeply disappointing. It comes unbidden, like a thief in the night, stealing my plans, my time, and my stability. I can't fight it or it burrows deeper. I can only resolve to wait it out with as much dignity as I can muster. I must leave projects undone, beg forgiveness from those I must disappoint, and accept a slower time table.
What works for me:
My husband has to remind me that I don't always feel this way. This isn't some new reality or problem, but an old one that comes and eventually goes.
Long hot baths, especially with a folded towel to sit on and an air pillow for my head. We installed a jetted tub with our remodel, and it is wonderful. Maybe a hot tub is in my future.
Massage
Comedy - A good dependable choice for me is Home Alone and Home Alone 2. I laugh every time.
Music - I've read that if you begin listening to music that reflects your mood and gradually change to bright and happy music, it can actually help your mood brighten. I've had that happen. But calming music always helps, especially the Mormon Tabernacle Choir.
Hot water bottle or microwave hot packs - I am always chilled when the pain intensifies, so heat anywhere helps. I'm sure I tense more when I am chilled too.
Reading about fibromyalgia - it helps to believe I am doing something about it. To remember what it is I am fighting, and that I am not alone. I am no worse off than some, and no better than others.
What helps you? I'd love to hear about it.
My scrapbooks are a source of comfort. Here is another digital page I did for a young woman recently baptized. I used a quick page from Lindsay Jane

Lindsay Jane designs